Anger-Fear-Hostility-Depression-Stress Anger, fear, hostility, depression and stress all have to do with the belief of "I cannot" rather than "I can." All of these negative feelings have to do with the lack of acceptance of the difficulties of life, the need to pursue diligently through those difficulties, the continued determination to do what you can, and accepting what you … [Read more...]

Problems and Solutions Stress comes from focusing on problems, relief comes from focusing on solutions. Regardless of what "the bother" is, if you deal with it not as a problem, but a situation in need of a solution, then there is nothing to be uptight about. Stress makes one uptight, solutions are calming and stress relieving. It is merely that "you have been selected for … [Read more...]

Stress = Avoidance There is an answer-method to stress avoidance. If you have to do something you don't like (something that causes stress), make up your mind what you are going to do/not do, deal with it, and accept the consequences. That reduces stress, end of discussion. Sometimes doing something and sometimes doing nothing is correct. That is, you don't always deal … [Read more...]

Self Transformation (Using The Hoffman Quadrinity Process) To Deal With Disappointment, Anger & Hatred Leading To Love, Acceptance, And Understanding A summary of Tony Schwartz in New Age 9-10/99, pages 66-69, 109-115 This is an intense program that can heal the pain of childhood, changing you away from the negative and self-defeating habits that began then and dominate your … [Read more...]

Making Decisions, Russell Crowe in A Beautiful Mind, and Trembling Before God Russell Crowe was nominated for an Academy Award for his sensitive and effective performance in the 2001 movie A Beautiful Mind. The beauty of the dialogue in that movie impressed me so much that I bought Sylvia Nasar's book. A particular Russell Crowe line in the movie struck me: "cognitive … [Read more...]